Shyness equals   losing opportunities, less pleasure and fewer social connections, but there are ways to make it a thing of the past. When I was fifteen, I was shy. I remember an attractive girl trying to talk with me. My shyness made me focus on me instead of her. I heard my own voice but not hers and I thought about what I was trying to say instead of what she was trying to say. To overcome shyness you need to learn to relax. This gives you the space to practice certain conversational skills. Relaxed socializing   is so pleasurable. To start reducing your own shyness, I want you to absorb the following tips and ideas and start to put them into practice. Focus your attention away from yourself. Notice what other people are wearing and make a mental note, listen to their conversation, imagine where they might live, and make a point of remembering names. Not only does this give you more to talk about, it also reduces social anxiety, leaving you feeling calmer. Ask people open questions. Many people like to talk about themselves and will find you interesting if you find them interesting. Ask questions that require more than a "yes" or "no" response such as "What do you like about this place?' rather than "Do you like this place?" Once they have answered, you can use add-on   questions connected with the first such as "What other places do you like in this city?" Next you can express your views. This is a great way to get the conversation going. Now I love meeting new people and suspect that my current social confidence would be unrecognizable to my fifteen-year-old self. The author didn't pay attention to what the girl was saying because  _  .
her voice was very low he was shy and nervous he was attracted by her appearance he wasn't interested in her topic